“Your Success, My Support”: Intro to Snark Stoppers

“Your Success, My Support” is a series of short videos to help guide you as we unpack a delicate topic!

Women Business Owners, if you’re navigating a relationship with an unsupportive husband, I’m here to help & support your journey, so that you can continue to grow a thriving business (amidst the trials of marriage).

Today, I’m sharing TIPS & SCRIPTS from my e-book, “7 Snark Stoppers: How To Stop or Slow-Down Your Husband’s Hurtful Comments”.

Let’s jump into today’s tip video:

 

For more information on the release of my new book “Till Business Do Us Part: How to Thrive in your Business & Survive Your Unsupportive Husband”, please visit my website at https://www.tillbusinessdouspart.com

To contact me directly about joining one of my private Facebook Groups (“Your Success, My Support” or the Business (Re)Builders Group) please email me at annette@tillbusinessdouspart.com

Introducing FREE Download: 7 Snark Stoppers. How to Stop or Slow-Down Your Husband’s Hurtful Comments

7-snark-stoppers-coverI’m so excited to GIVE YOU A FREE (and HELPFUL) GIFT! Introducing my free ebook, “7 Snark Stoppers. How to Stop or Slow-Down Your Husband’s Hurtful Comments.”  Some time ago, I realized that to give my business my best efforts, I had to create some peace with my husband. The first order of business was to change the dynamics of my communication style with my husband.  This ebook provides you with pointed advice and seven practical tools to get out of a rut and replace what may have become bad communication habits.

I’ve been in your shoes.  My husband had a very critical communication style and I didn’t have the tools to deal with it correctly.  This created a challenging and oftentimes chaotic marriage.  This ebook is intended to give you some tools for dealing with criticism, snarky comments, back-handed sass and intentionally hurtful remarks.

7 Snark Stoppers are ready-made, field-tested, phrases to help you stop, or at the very least, slow-down, the onslaught of negativity and verbal abuse, without going to the dark side. ONE of you must remain grounded! 🙂 Just like exercise videos, I have created a beginner and an advanced option for each Snark Stopper. I urge you to select one or two Snark Stoppers and start with the beginner option.  Commit it/them to memory so you’ll be prepared when the next “exchange” occurs.   After you’ve naturally used it, several times, progress to the advanced option.  Be sure to rehearse it and make it yours.

Just fill out the form to the right and we will email you a PDF copy of, “7 Snark Stoppers, How To Stop or Slow-Down Your Husband’s Hurtful Comments.

I pray and hope that interactions with your husband will transform from cynical, sarcastic exchanges to meaningful connections that provide a pathway to appreciation and compromise.  In other words, a grown-up relationship that provides security, safety, and love.

As always, please let our wonderful community of women who share what you’re experiencing know what worked for you, what didn’t, or any new suggestions with a family-friendly comment, below.

I’m in Your Corner!

P.S.  Many of these will work with sassy co-workers and teenagers, too! 🙂

Communicating is not the answer

Communicating

How many times have you said (or thought) after a frustrating communication, of any degree, with anyone, “This would be so much easier if he/she would just listen to me!”  Or, “if only we could communicate!”  But, listening to you isn’t the issue.  Either is communicating with each other.

Communication is when two or more people are trying to get their point across. What’s missing is the lack of trying to understand the other’s point of view, perspective, or opinion. That can only by accomplished by hearing what people say.  Stephen Covey, a prolific, contemporary, motivational author and keynote speaker, wrote in his runaway best seller, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, but instead, they listen with the intent to reply.”

A genuine effort to try to understand is accomplished by asking relevant, thoughtful questions.  For example, asking leading questions, that start off with “What…” or even “How…”  For example, “What does this (fill in the blanks) mean to you?”  Or  “How can I help you with…?” But, be mindful of starting a sentence with “Why…?” as in, “Why did you…” or “Why are you…”  Starting a sentence with “Why” implies criticism and asks for motive. This moves you away from understanding and connection.  Utilizing these simple techniques will go a long way in forging a connection.

It’s only with connection that you can touch the heart.  Think about how you feel when someone asks you thoughtful questions.  You feel cherished, valued, important.  Do the same for those you love or are close to.  Heck, try it with the grocery clerk.  You’ll be amazed at the heart print you’ll leave behind.


CHALLENGE:  For the next week, I challenge you to put down your need to reply/defend/say something pithy, witty or funny and just listen to everyone you have a conversation with. Don’t listen with the intent to reply, but listen to ask more questions.  Really try to connect and understand.  As the ancient book of wisdom states in Proverbs 18:13, St. Francis of Assisi penned in the 1200’s, and more recently Stephen Covey wrote, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”