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Monday Mindset: Do You Have a Support Bubble?

WARNING This post is not for people with young children at home who have no time for themselves.
I feel your pain. I do. 

Humans were created and designed to be social. Studies have proven that social connection is vital to every aspect of health and well-being. We get reinforcement and connection with the cues we receive from people. Research has shown if isolated for an extended period of time social animals experience distress, depression, poor health, and even death. Think of the Russian babies with no physical warm touch. No soothing voice or warm embrace. They banged their heads on the metal rods of their institutional crib just to get some kind of stimuli. Breaks my heart. Even animals die in isolation. Now our sickest and the elderly are dying alone in hospitals, scared and alone, with no human touch. Heart breaking.

With so many people isolated from friends, family, and colleagues these days how do we prevent a similar outcome? Especially for those who live alone. You can only ZOOM so many calls. How do you get the support you need? Have you thought of forming your own support bubble?

A support bubble is gaining interest especially in the UK. The premise is you have a handful of people (exclusive only) who don’t necessarily live with you who maintain social distancing and practice safe hygiene, at all times. Trust is a big factor in this scenario.

But I’m going deeper.

Many of our senior citizens in facilities are already in a bubble of self-isolation. Why not let them share their bubble? They are not at risk if they are not out and about and no one is visiting them. It would look like this: facilities with no virus outbreaks allow a “bubble” of 4 or 5 residents the opportunity to socialize. Bingo is a non-sharing activity. So is painting. So is chair yoga. All must adhere to safe health practices.

How about adopting an animal (if your situation allows the responsible adoption of a cat or dog)?

As a woman who is an empty-nester and living alone, in California (the shut-down state of the country), I have created ways to prevent the creep of isolation as best as I can. I have constructed my own version of a support bubble.

The most important thing I do is keep a routine. I have 2 cats (left-overs from my adult children) that are quite entertaining and keep me on track. One cat literally meows in my face or at my feet at 8:30 p.m. until I go to bed. Not only does this make me laugh, every night, this practice allows me to maintain good sleep quality. Of course, the same cat is in my face at 5:15 every morning meowing. And when I say in my face, I mean literally! I smile at him every morning. What a great way to start the day!

I also have a goal (note I did not say habit) is to work out every morning (in my case in my Living Room) after working for a couple hours (I office out of my home). Like “normal” if I don’t do it in the morning it won’t get done. I schedule ZOOM calls and I’m working on two purpose driven projects. I text friends with relevant GIFs just to get engagement. I call my elderly parents almost every day to see how they are doing. I’ve recently taken up the lost art of notecard writing. Just to stay in touch.

And with face mask in hand, I walk outside when I can. I smile behind my face mask whenever I come across another human being just in case in the brief moment our eyes lock they see my eyes crinkle with joy of greeting another human being.

What does your support bubble look like? Who or what is in your support bubble? What do you do to prevent the effects of isolation? And if you’re feeling isolated what can you do to proactively get out of it?

Monday Mindset: “I’m a positive person. Aren’t I?”

As we face uncertainty in unprecedented measure every single day it can be hard to find the positive, forget about mustering the need to sustain it. Everything is Simply. Hard. Now. The irony is I am a “glass half full” gal! But this challenge is worth pursuing because it is needed now more than ever.

I’m not going to get loquacious about hope, positive psychology, or even optimism. Though they are favorite topics of mine. Instead I want to be helpful in a practical “let’s-get-to-the-point” way.

Most people have heard or read the following:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”

Gandhi, Lao Tzu, Ralph Waldo Emerson, the father of Margaret Thatcher, and others have been credited with different versions. But, that is a lot to be mindful of and these are trying times. Heck, sometimes it’s hard to remember what day of the week it is! So, if you are committed to being more positive in thought, word, and deeds, I’m going to distill it for you in 4 easy words…
LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS.

Huh?

It’s simple really. Listen to how you describe events or characterize someone. Are you uplifting, edifying, supportive of others and situations? Or do you put a negative spin to it? For example, “I went to the hardware store and they are still struggling with all the new protocols put in place. Oh, and they must still be having trouble getting supplies because I couldn’t get everything on my list. The clerks were really trying but there were some very impatient customers.” Or is this how you sound, “I don’t ever want to go to the hardware store, again! Nobody knows how to drive, the store was out of 3 things I needed, lines are too long, and the clerks are stupid. I had to wait 7 minutes to check out!”

Speaking of “stupid” or “jerk” or “*#*@!$*”, or … if you use that language even once to describe someone or an event, you have your answer: You are not a positive person. In some circles, you would be classified as a jerk. And a big one, too. The oldest book of wisdom even tells us, “Out of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34b). When my children were young pre-teens and share a story at dinner about some event that irked them at school, “Susie did this to me…” I would ask, “what would their story sound like at dinner, tonight?”

Oh, and venting to someone doesn’t abdicate you from being kind in thought, deed, or word. Why would you vent your jerk-ness on someone you love? Yes, you can express your frustration. But don’t ever disparage someone. Even the person that cut you off in traffic. It happens. Maybe their wife was giving birth. Maybe they didn’t see you. Maybe they were texting and could have caused an accident but it didn’t happen.

Give others the benefit of the doubt. Otherwise you are at the same level at the jerk you’re frustrated about.

Here is the good news: you can change your words right now. Not next week or tomorrow. But right now. I challenge it to try it for 3 days. Just 3 days. If you slip up, you get a do over. Just start the 3-day challenge, again. Speak with hope and optimism. Speak positively. Or don’t say anything. It’s that simple. And when you do you will feel a difference. And the difference will be positive.

“Your soul is nourished when you are kind, but you destroy yourself when you are cruel.”

 

 

CONTEXT: Tip Tuesday with Annette

Understanding the VALUE of CONTEXT

Join me for a quick virtual “check-in”, where we’ll be unpacking the INFLUENCE that #context can have in our personal lives & relationships, as well as in our BUSINESSES!


Drop your comments below!

What experiences have YOU had with misinterpreting someone’s message because it was taken out of context? Maybe this has happened to YOU as the business owner? Stay tuned for more TIP TUESDAYS!

Strike the SH**** Word: Tip Tuesday with Annette

WHAT’S THE SH**** WORD YOU NEED TO STRIKE FROM YOUR VOCABULARY?

(and how are swear words taking away from the effectiveness of what you actually want to say?)

So what’s this WORD that we need to REMOVE from our everyday conversations:
“SHOULD” (and “shouldn’t”)

Using SHOULD creates opportunity for EXCUSES.

Saying Should -OR- Shouldn’t INVOKES SHAME.

Instead of choosing these words, make the conscious choice to DECLARE your INTENT (when you’re READY).

START LISTENING to those around you. Take notice of the follow through or excuses that follow these statements.

I encourage you to begin DECLARING your intent to create a meaningful commitment to ACTION.

LOVE your Business. BUILD your Business.

Share your successes with this exercise BELOW!
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How To Classify Your Business

What Kind of Business do YOU want to OWN?

Join today’s TIP TUESDAY discussion, helping YOU determine HOW to classify your BUSINESS in order to optimize SUCCESS!

Grab some pen & paper so you can do some brainstorming for the FUTURE of your business:

Let’s START by reverse engineering YOUR Business: What’s YOUR Plan? What’s your EXIT strategy? Where do you SEE your business in the future?

NOW, let’s identify which category YOUR Business falls into?

#1: A Startup

#2: A Lifestyle Business

#3: Scalable or Enterprise Level

FINALLY, let’s discuss: What Type of FINANCING distinguishes your Business?

LOVE Your Business, BUILD Your Business!

Stay tuned for our next Tip Tuesday!

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Monday Mindset: Independence

Independence is defined as the quality or state of being independent. It can be attributed to a person or a territory. It also means self-governing. Lately and too commonly, independence is associated with a defiant stance. July 4th is the celebration of our independence from our dependence from the monarchy of Britain. But, have you considered that at the same time the 13 colonies became interdependent with each other?

As we enter into our Federal Holiday of July 4th, I encourage you to think about how are we, as a nation, interdependent. Who and what are we interdependent on? Could we be more interdependent? Could we be less?

But, I also want you to ponder what you became independent from but also what or who you became interdependent on?

Have a Happy and Safe 4th.

Leave your comments below.

#1 Common Denominator to Success: Tip Tuesday with Annette

Women Business Owners, I’m ready to SHARE my secret with YOU!

What is the KEY to SUCCESS?

The #1 Common Denominator to SUCCESS in YOUR business?

It’s not sexy. In fact, it’s quite simple.

*drumroll please*….

It is CONSISTENCY.

#consistency develops ROUTINES & BUILDS MOMENTUM.

It allows you to get PAST the finish line, so you can REAP the REWARDS.

Consistency should be every business’s TOP PRIORITY.

TUNE IN to learn MORE about how this KEY characteristic can revolutionize the SUCCESS of YOUR business!

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What is your business going to look like on the other side of COVID-19 and the Economic Meltdown?

Did your world suddenly change last month? Are you so overwhelmed that you’ve lost your confidence? Is your business adversely affected? Are you DETERMINED to turn it around but you don’t know what steps to take next? Is your unsupportive husband suggesting you shut the business down?

I’ve turned my 12-year-old manufacturing and e-commerce business around twice and it looks like COVID-19 and the economic meltdown will be the third time! Join me in my “Let’s Do This Together” Business (RE)Builder Group! It’s for Women Business Owners who want to get back in the game but not quite sure where/how to start. It’s for Women Business Owners with unsupportive husbands who want to THRIVE in their business regardless of the state of their marriage. It’s for Women Business Owners who want to come out of this on the other side STANDING. STRONG.

If you are a bold woman business owner who isn’t into bashing or blaming, who want results, who is an encourager of others, THIS GROUP IS FOR YOU!

Starting very soon, take a Sneak Peek at my new private FaceBook group: Business (Re)Builders! Oh, and I’m gifting it through the end of May 31st! Stay tuned for details and registration!

JOIN US! Here is the link to my FaceBook page  https://bit.ly/2JyzFX6

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

5 TIPS for Women Business Owners: Housebound with Your Unsupportive Husband

Have you suddenly found yourself under the SAME roof as your spouse, 24/7?

When the world suddenly changes (OVERNIGHT), what do you do?!

HOW do you run your business with an Unsupportive Husband right over your shoulder?

As part of my new mini-series, “YOUR SUCCESS. My Support” – I’m sharing 5 TIPS (& some bonus tips), on how to navigate the challenges of being housebound with an Unsupportive Husband.

This tip video unpacks HOW to deal with this NEW situation, that is most likely accompanied by added stress (to your business & marriage).

Women Business Owners, everywhere, NEED to hear these tips, as we transition into a new season of unexpected change!

5 TIPS for Women Business Owners:

#1: Stay Calm (This Too, Shall Pass)

#2: Be Your Best Self

#3: Establish Rules (Logistics VS. Personal)

#4: Strike out the words: “You Always” & “You Never”

#5: “3 Gifts” Daily List Finally,  SHARE this reading exercise (using a quote from the prolific author, C.S. Lewis), replacing the word “Atomic Bomb” with “Virus”: “If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things—praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts—not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs.”

For more support during this time, you can contact me directly at annette@tillbusinessdouspart.com https://www.tillbusinessdouspart.com

Announcing “Your Success. My Support.”

“Your Success. My Support” was created for women business owners with unsupportive husbands.

It is a group where you will find “business tips and spouse scripts.”  You will get strategies, tools, and techniques that you can use in your business, now.

But, most of all you will get support.  Support from other women business owners with unsupportive husbands and from me.  I’ve been there.  I get it and I can help.

Join us!  We’re meeting in a PRIVATE group in Facebook https://bit.ly/2JyzFX6