- It isn’t about complaining or whining. Because complainers want 1 of 2 things: to have someone to fix “it” (because it is easier to complain than find a solution) or they want validation for their feelings or beliefs. Neither promotes growth and learning. If your husband is a chronic complainer, don’t complain about him. If you complain about your husband, stop. When we’re hurting and confused about anything or anyone, the knee-jerk reaction is to complain because it gives the perception we’re doing something. But, in reality, it keeps us from taking action. Let’s not forget, that complaining is a drain and boring. Who wants to be that?
- It isn’t about husband bashing. No matter how difficult your situation is or you perceive it to be, do NOT lower your responses to his level. You may not recognize it, but he is still a human being and has value. Rise above it and when you do, do it well and with all the respect you can muster.
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I’ve been there. Breathe. We’ll get there, together.
Annette de Lancey Giacomazzi